But if I want my future to be satisfying, happy, and worth living, I have to consider my choices now in light of the person I want to be in that imaginary future. I have to ask: What’s the best decision here in the Present for Future me?
Category: 2025
Embracing Home Again After Vacation
You know how you walk from room to room and see everything as if for the first time?
Inspired By In June 2025
She said she liked the way the people in Mansfield seemed to have enough. She said they weren’t into “more, more, more, for the sake of more” the way many people in Portland are. And she found this lovely and refreshing. She finds it refreshing, but frankly, this ‘enough’ mindset drives me bats. I see it as a form of complacency.
It Was Such A Good Week
We had countless meals. We drank our morning coffees together while writing and scrolling through our devices.
How Clothing Influences Power Dynamics
Fashion is a vehicle for self-expression, but more importantly, fashion is a source of personal power that we can consciously use to shape and create the way we feel and are perceived.
Talk To Yourself More Kindly, You Stupid Idiot!
On Tuesday, I had a close encounter with a tree. A dead tree. One that had fallen across the path on the dog walk. I had negotiated the “duck under” on the way out, but cracked my head open on it the way back, grossly miscalculating the distance between the top of my head and … Continue reading Talk To Yourself More Kindly, You Stupid Idiot!
The 5 Smartest Things I Did Before My Trip To Paris
Touring Monet’s house and gardens with Lisa was like having a French friend who knew all the inside info about everything.
Paris In Black And White
This is me auditioning outfits yesterday. Tops, bottoms, shoes. The rule is every item of clothing has to go with every other item of clothing. That’s how you pack minimally. That’s how you pack light. That’s how you pack in a carry-on for ten days in Paris. Hahahaha. No. Freaking. Way. I’m checking a bag. … Continue reading Paris In Black And White
Inspired By In April 2025
I’ve been listening to her coverage of Trump’s first hundred days, and her informed rage is deeply, deeply satisfying. I like that she comes with stories, history, connections, and receipts. I hate hearing about the things she reports on; they wreck me, but I need to hear. As of today, she’s returning to just Mondays, and I will miss her.
Not Today, Sadie: On Naming the Voices in My Head
Somewhere in that scroll hole, I saw an Instagram meme suggesting you name your brain. The idea is that when a dark thought shows up—like today is going to be awful—you can talk back to it. One woman said she named her brain Becky. So when the spiral starts, she says, Becky, I love you, but we absolutely cannot be doing that today. It helps. It puts a little distance between you and the thought.
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